The Tale Of 2 Women and 1 Lesson Of A Lifetime

good morning everyone and welcome to
another heart-to-heart with Tessy today I’m going to share with you the tale of
two women and one life lesson I hope you stay tuned to hear what I have to say well back everyone and welcome back to
my heart to hearts it is a cold day it’s probably about 20 degrees but I am
working outside and I really enjoy being outside whenever I can also I think you
enjoy being outside with me today I’m going to tell you a story about two
women and a life lesson and I hope you enjoy this but I hope you get something
from it and I hope you understand where I’m coming from in this video these two
women both of my know but them I know personally and I’m gonna share with you
a story one woman that I knew who years before she was a very strong worker she
was very dominant in her field and she was really hard at working and over time
things happened and she suffered a stroke when she suffered a stroke she
was too stubborn to seek any kind of physical therapy and so she had the
impact of that stroke in turn after the whole years of life gone by she became
more bitter and bitter about her life and in turn became bitter towards others
everything in her life it was negative everything was about bitterness and
anger three years went on it took its toll on her and her bitterness and anger
and a resentment towards life she affected other people she turned her
bitterness on herself onto others she became known for being very bitter and
very mean she became known for being very angry and slowly people started to
leave her she had a second chance in life and she didn’t want her second
chance and she didn’t use it for her benefit and for her blessings but she
used it and only for her curse then there’s this other lady now this lady
suffered the same things this lady suffered a stroke many years
ago and this lady suffered a lot of the elements in her life and one year she
lost her son and she also lost her husband she had a stroke all these
things came compounded on her life but this woman decided she wasn’t gonna
be bitter about her life she was gonna try to make it the best she could her
life was very hard and very sad she found peace in her life because she knew
through all of her struggles she knew that God was with her she’s had days
that are very sad and lonely she’s had days that are very hard on her life but
she never took that out on people she decided to become more loving towards
others and give more peace towards others and see others for who they are
and see others in the good in them she decided to take her hurts and her pain
in her life and use it to witness towards others she had empathy and love
she kindness turn helping others she’s seen life in her life she’s seen this
sparkle come back in her eyes even though her life was still very hard she
found comfort and knowing that she was helping someone else people love her and
adore her people think she is the most beautiful woman in the world because of
her beauty inside these are two extreme cases these are cases of women that I
know today is hard to heart I want to share with you what case would somebody
say you are would you be the one that’s bitter and vile and be the one that
hates life and hates everyone else but would you be the one that took your
sadness your circumstances in your life and you decided to do something and make
it better we all go through things in life and some people go through things
that I’ve never would even imagine going through but yet in turn what are we
doing with the life that we have now when our loved ones pass away our life
still goes on and the memories of our loved ones are still with us when things
happen in our life when things happen in our health do we curse God and die or do
we live a blessed life even though our life is very hard do we use the things
that happen to us to help others do we use the things that have happened to us
to help others to help them understand life better
Oh do we become bitter and hateful and turn away everyone that’s ever loved us
turned away everyone in our self-pity in our self-destruction life is short my
friends we all have a certain amount of time to live each one of us is born and
each one of us will die what do we do with our life that matters if you who
watch my videos or impacts like me we feel deeply for people I feel deeply for
people people that are hurting I feel deeply for people people that have such
hatred in their life because life is so short what do we want to be known for
when we die do we want to be known for our circumstances and how we rose above
them how we became a blessing to others how our story was not in vain things
happen to us we can’t take it back we can’t change what happened but yet we
can change our future we can change our path from here and now can you reuse the
things that are out to destroy us and can we use them to make us better can we
use them to help other people this world is a lonely place think of all the
things we can do for others and think of how we can bless other people’s lives
the woman who took all of this sadness in her life took all of these hardships
she decided that she was going to try to make something of her life she was going
to try to share her story with the world and she is she is sharing her life you
all are sharing your life you are all that woman when I see your comments and
you talk to other people who are going through hardships in their life you take
down your pain for a moment to help someone else seek them through their
pain and that’s what makes you amazing I know I can’t change the world I wish I
could I know I can’t make the bitter and angry people this world see that life is
just so short it’s too short to be angry and mean and vile and hatred
life is just too short but sadly some people will fall by the wayside and
there’s nothing that I can do or anybody can do that is a life that’s a sad life
I often question and say God why do you allow such mean people to be able to
live on this earth and curse it what other people would do anything to live
in their shoes in their life there are people that are dying every day of
cancer people that would do anything to have one more day of their life when you
see other people that just throw their lives away out of anger and bitterness
and stop resentment this is the life we know we live in a fallen world and right
is wrong and wrong is right and it’s hard at times but we continue to shed a
light into a very dark world we continue to let our light shine we don’t hide it
under a bushel that’s what the negative people want you to do they would want
you just to be scared and go into a corner and hide but no we let our light
shine even more and brighter by letting our light shine brighter we’re telling
the world that we have happiness in our life not because their life is perfect
our life is far from perfect not because we don’t have a lemons that don’t have
struggles but because we realize that God’s given us a life and that is our
life to live and we need to use it wisely and abundantly we have days that
are down we have days that are depressing but you know what we pick
ourselves up from those days we brush yourself off and we decide we’re gonna
have happy days again our days will never be what they were when I loved
ones were gone our days will never be like they were when we had perfect
health but our days can be good again because we focus on the future and not
what’s behind us we focus on helping others helping them through their pain
and struggles in life that’s where we find our joy we found our joy in helping
others and our sorrow is just a little bit lighter when we turn it into helping
others that’s what we’re called to do my friends that’s called
take care of one we’ll see you guys tomorrow you


  1. God has surely used many trials I have gone through to help me love and understand people. I am thankful for those trials. I have struggled at times wondering if I have made a difference in someone's life because it seems so small. And then I am reminded of how I have felt when someone thought of me and perhaps sent me a card and how it made me feel. And so all those things that seem so small really do matter! πŸ’›

  2. God allows us to go through the pain to bless others but from very personal experiences I too need to be remembered to use that pain to love and forgive!

  3. Tessie you didn't need to go to the mission field. You are an inspirational missionary right on the Internet. Keep letting your Jesus light shine.

  4. What a touching video Tessie. Very true. You are a definite vessel for God. Keep being Tessie. We all need your Sunday "what's on your heart". I look forward to your videos everyday!

  5. Oh to be the second woman in your testimony. It’s so hard sometimes. We don’t always understand God’s plan. Our will and ego are our own worst enemies.

  6. I agree that we are to be a light in a dark world. And even just one light makes such a difference! Tess,that's in you and you inspire us to be a light too!

  7. Beautiful, sweet baby girl πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ˜‡πŸ˜‡God spoke to my heart through you… I could relate to so much, and ask myself how does this apply to me? Miss Tess, I even felt conviction…God sent His Spirit to say, His words todayβ€οΈβ€οΈπŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»my husband, and I are reading the book of Job, so when you said, curse God, and die, I thought, Wow, Lord this is you… I have a best friend that we grew up together since we were 2 and 3…she lost two granddaughters several years ago, in the same years, and in the same family…she was heartbroken… wanted to get be up…she asked me, Why is God letting this happen? My response was, I don’t have the answer to that, but I do know that there is nowhere else to go but to God…He helps us through those hard times, and gives us hope, even in life’s catastrophe’s…I loved the end of the video about Jesus ❀️❀️❀️Blessings my sweet girl…thank you for listening to our LordπŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ˜‡πŸ˜‡πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ’‹πŸ’‹

  8. Well said Tessie. Find a positive thing in each day, especially the hard days. So sad to see bitter people missing out on all the good things they don't even know they have in their lives.

  9. Your video reminds me of a story my Mum told me as a child….I have lived my life by this…such a beautiful life lesson, that I now teach my children.

    There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

    The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

    Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

    The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there."

    The little boy then understood how powerful his words were. He looked up at his father and said "I hope you can forgive me father for the holes I put in you."

    "Of course I can," said the father.

  10. I will never loose my faith ever since I was little because I wanted to be just my like my cousins Missionaries in Papa New Guina ,living amongst the Pigmy Tribes ,there children to this day all had the calling

  11. Good Morning Tessie, Sisters, Brothers, and Friends:) Wish you all a wonderful blessed day filled with Gods joy and happiness:) God bless you:) Love you all:)

  12. I'm a Empath also. I think this is wonderful. Life is to short to throw it all away. I lost my only son in June of this year suddenly from a pulmonary embolism πŸ’” It's been so hard to go through. I need time to grieve and heal by myself but I'm not bitter. I hope one day after I have had some time to heal I will be able to help someone else. I feel for other people and I try to think what it would be like if I were in their shoes. Thank you for doing this I know I needed to hear it. πŸ’–πŸ˜Š

  13. I enjoyed your stories so much. You are a pleasure to watch. Sometimes I just put thank you on here because what you have said has been so important and helpful to me. God Bless you Tessie.

  14. When I was a Nurse I learned something-some people suffer more from pain than another who suffers the exact same pain-that’s why we always asked them to rate their own pain/God is always there❀️

    Mark 10:45 β€œFor even the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve….”

    God blesses us to be a blessing to others and our desire is to encourage believers toward action in service to those around them, especially the vulnerable and hurting.Β Tessie, thanks for sharing!

  16. Oh tessie that was such a nice topic God blesses you and us through this one that's for sure love ya tessie have a wonderful day sweetie

  17. Good morning Tessie, what a wonderful lesson. Perfect timing, just what I needed to hear. (BTW, Great editing.) Love, CarolπŸ’œ

  18. well said , I have hemidystonia from a accident and work in a hospital looking after patients , got to keep the spirits up for sure x

  19. I listened to your description of both fictional characters and in all honesty, I am a mixture of both. A cracked vessel with a bit of light shining out. No one is perfect except our Lord. I try never to judge others, I have not walked a mile in their shoes. What we see on their outsides can never be the full story of what is occurring on their insides. How would I react if I had been abused as a child, had to fight in a war, been beaten and robbed, etc etc. Thank God, I don’t know. You make some excellent points, but we each walk alone in this life and I personally believe every day is a new day under His protection and all I can do is live that day according to His will. Happy New Year Tessie. May 2020 bring you peace and joy x

  20. Morning Tessie!
    Thank you for sharing this story. With the Lord in are life we have hope. God has continued to be with me and lift me up during the bad times. Without him I'm not sure how others can find that hope and reassurance during times when tragedy, heartache and life changes happen. God Bless you.

  21. Wow wow wow you just described my husband and myself he is negative hatful unhappy and I am light positive and oh so happy but his darkness in invading into my light I fight it off daily he want me to be like him hating everyone (2nd marriage for both of us) only 2 yrs into the marriage (5 yrs together) I thought I could change him … my biggest mistake…I thought him going to church and seeing LOVE would help him … but sadly it has not … he is so critical of everything everyone it is breaking me … I have found you Tessie my light I am clinging to hope … please pray for me … I am stuck I am faking my life away I do not know where to turn… I just turned 60 … too long to live in this unhappiness…

  22. You are a wise woman dear sister in Christ! Thank you for sharing this truth! Looking forward to more videos in 2020! Happy new year!! Hugs to you!





  24. Great video. Bitterness causes illness and makes you old before your time. So many die alone because of their bitterness.
    Thank you Tessie, for this excellent message.πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ’•

  25. Tessie , please keep on preaching, they are anointed words, and you are touching people all over the world! We love you ! Your amazing! The Devil sure gets mad when your making a difference in people's lives . Put him where he belongs and keep on preaching girl! We love it ! We need you!!!!!!πŸ’ž

  26. God help us when we go thru these trials to grow and not get bitter. Thanks for sharing this video Tessie. Have a blessed day πŸ™

  27. Tessie, thank you for another powerful message and a reminder for all of us of what’s important in this short life.

  28. When you hate and are angry then you are the one that suffers not the ones you are angry at. They dont care.we have to live our lives as best we can and try o u r best to be happy and enjoy the little things in life that Gid provides. We have such goid memories of our son and his wonderful outlook on life and hus sense of humor and the fact that no matter how bad he felt he was still postive. Life can be what we make it and i love the message you are sending out to others.someone told and older gentleman one day that he was so bright and happy. He responded well of course , thanks be to god I woke up to another day.

  29. This is beautiful, Tessie! Thank you! One thing I try to always remember is…. We can NOT control the things that happen in our life… we can only control how we react to those things.
    Thanks for sharing this with us Tessie! Hope you had a wonderful blessed Christmas.
    May God bless you and yours in the New Year.

  30. Happy New Year Tessie only the best for you…people like you inspire me to be a better person and enjoy life with less

  31. Thanks my sweet little friend. I've always been a giver to those in need to the best of my ability. Make's my heart feel good. πŸ’•

  32. There is no stuck – there are choices. Tessie embraced different choices by homesteading. Difficult relationships are not meant to take away our peace and joyful soul. Find your boundaries and choose to change your situation not just accept misery. God doesn’ t want that for you .

  33. Yes, your lesson reminds me of the story of the traveler who walks along the road and sees the boulder.
    One says, I can't continue this is to large a stumbling block.
    The other says, Let me use that boulder as a stepping stone and continued on.
    I try very hard to be like the second traveler.

  34. Thank you for that wonderful word of encouragement. I am going through a major trial and I am relying on Jesus for his intervention and his peace. Blessings to you and your family

  35. I was in a abusive relationship for 12 years scared of him oh yes I was he put me down I felt worthless everyday I used to pray to god and say to him pls show me a way out of this unhappy life then I got breast cancer omg it was the most brutal nasty disease I could have got am still going through it today but my partner left me he said he couldn’t handle me being this poorly so god answered my prayers and he went it was so hard but no harder than being shouted at every day and being hit it’s the best thing he could have done he went never saw him again am still going through it but as time went on 8 met a wonderful caring man and married him me and my kids are so blessed to be this happy yes am disabled lost parts of my body yes it hurts so does my pain but being happy is the most important thing in life weather your man or women any age we all deserve to be happy and not judged in any way god bless us all πŸŒΊπŸ’πŸ’“πŸ’•πŸ’—πŸ’šβ€οΈ

  36. Tessie, I honestly feel like you're reaching out to me with this vlog. I am a single 47 year old and I had a stroke back in July due to hypertension. It was a mild one but still affected my short term memory and left side movement. I cannot work any longer. I have a double degree and I was very successful in my career field. I understand both women's feelings. I was angry too after I suffered the stroke. It's the thought of not being independent as you once were that causes you to feel this way. But I learned what happened was beyond my control and I chose to take my life back little steps at a time. I lost my mother a few years ago to cancer and my father the same many years ago. When I feel bad for myself, I think of them and think how much they would have loved to have a second chance at life. I know God saved my life for a reason and I have had to learn to live a new way of life and path to follow. I have tried to educate people I know on Facebook and in life on strokes and taking care of their health. A stroke, heart attack, or anything like that could happen to anyone. Tomorrow is not promised so we have to make the best of today. Now, my days are not so hectic and I have time to think about life more. I appreciate the little things more. I try to be a better, more outgoing person to my family and my friends. My older sister and my niece have been my rocks to lean on. They have showed me that I'm here for a reason and I try to do things each day to make it count whether it's just helping out around the house or spending more time with everyone. It's all about attitude and how you want to live. I just want to be happy and make the best of what I have left of my life.

  37. no matter if you are rich or poor healthy or sick, we all get the same thing in life. A dash between two dates, and it's this dash or time that we live that makes the difference.

  38. Wonderful story Tessie, I got angry when I could not walk, but then I went to therapy and now I can do it, prayer was a wonderful healer, now I have had a setΒ  back by all my skin coming off from chemicals I had to work in and now I can notΒ work a job, went into depression for a little while, thanks for getting me out of that Tessie, I may not can do what I once could but I am blessed, watching your videos made me realize that, I am not blessed with material goods but am blessed with the things that count. Thank you Tessie

  39. Cancer survivor am disabled find day to day a struggle but so happy am here and thank god am here today even though the pain nearly finishes me be happy life to short be happy with yourself and others around you β€οΈπŸ’•πŸ’—πŸŒΊπŸ’πŸ’“πŸ’—πŸŒ·πŸŒΉ

  40. Tessie that sounds so much of what I've been through ,we should always show love and be happy and positive God only gives us one life and it goes by so fast, God bless you

  41. Amen, Tessie! Negative thinking never produces positive results. Like a polluted river, little by little it ekes its way over the banks and carries its pollution onto good land, spoiling it too. Be a positive light in an ever darkening world. Be strong & courageous! God is holding you in His strong right hand. Walk with Him. πŸ’—βœ

  42. Wonderful message Tessie!!!πŸ’• it is my goal to be positive in all the ways i can, (by the grace of God).
    You can't always change your circumstances, but you can change how you decide to view and deal with them!!! Thank you…a great time of year to introspect and see where you are in regards to your story!!!

  43. Great video & topic, Tessie ! We are faced with choices that only we can make. There are no magic wands. I sent you an email .

  44. God had a word for you yesterday,and then you put on this video. It is Phil. 2;5b, in the living bible. Shine out among them like beacon lights, holding out to them the words of life. Thank you for doing this. Helping to encourage and inspire.

  45. "This little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine, let it shine, let it shine, let it shine." This is a sweet song I learned as a child, at church, and I've never forgotten it. Words of wisdom, Tessie. You told the truth, all wisdom to live by. Take these words to heart, friends.

  46. You remind me a great deal of one of my daughters-in-law, who lived with me for 3 years. She is, as you are, an example to me of kindness and gentleness, forgiveness and grace. I am ashamed it has taken me so many years to see the strength and independence I once was so proud of actually hid some very ugly bitterness. I seek Jesus' forgiveness daily and try to be clay in His hands, instead of a brick! You are a blessing, Tessie, a Proverb 31 woman whose value is, indeed, "greater than rubies." May God bless and cover you and your household:)

  47. What a wonderful post. You have just described my mother in law with the angry women. She is so angry, nasty, and mean to everyone and she has pushed all of us away. I lost my husband this year very unexpectedly (her son) and I was/am just crushed. Never has she said she was sorry or did she even come to the funeral OF HER SON! She is draining and so very negative, and I just don't need that in my life. She has been this way all her life. Sometimes we have to walk away. I just want life to be happy and I try to love everyone and I try to be kind and do kind things. Your words are so wise. Live for God and live each day to the best you possibly can. That is our reward here on earth. God bless you all.

  48. Tess as you know I was a single mom who raised five children on my own.. my x husband didn’t pay a dime of child support. I worked by butt of just to have enough for us to eat.. then I got sick.. after years of surgeries and sickness… I would have people ask me how can you be so happy.. it was easy I was still here god was blessing me to see my children raised and now seeing my grand babies.. did life stinks sometimes oh heavens yes… but I wouldn’t change all the hardships for anything as it made me the woman I am today!!!

  49. Happy new year to you and your family happy times ahead for you and your channel god bless you all love ya love Michelle and family πŸ’—πŸ’“πŸ’šπŸ’•πŸ‘β€οΈπŸ‡¬πŸ‡§πŸ₯‚πŸ’πŸ·πŸŒ·β˜•οΈπŸΊπŸΎπŸŒΊπŸŒΉ

  50. It's all a matter of perspective. Do you trust God or do you not? That's how I choose to see it. Thanks for the heart to heart. πŸ’–

  51. God bless you Tessie, that was such a informative story. Yes we are supposed to shine our light, shine bright for the world to see are love or Compassion or empathy. Those are things that are not found in the world today. God bless you and your family

  52. Spot on, too many people spend their lives in a permanent state of hatred and for what? I cut such people out of my life, it's tough but I can't deal with others constant bitterness.

  53. Excellent heart to heart. When life hands you lemons make lemonaide. Very few survive a lifetime without trials and difficult times in one way or another. I've been through a lot and did have some anger and bitterness for a while but I figured out feeling that way was hurting myself and others and not allowing for healing. I'm in such a better place now and thank God for that. So happy to see you wearing the scarf I made you!

  54. My mother was that first woman…so full of bitterness, rage and hate. I vowed not to be like her and I have been victorious, but not through my own strength, but through the Lord, Jesus Christ. Without Him I would be walking that same destructive path that my mother had. The Lord lifted me and His strength was made perfect in my weakness. Praised be the name of the Lord!

  55. Hello my sweet friend. Another great video.
    We can choose to be positive or too be negative. Sometimes it may seem easier to be negative. Especially if we have an ill ness. But in the end being positive you feel better.
    I have fibromyalgia and at night my shoulders burn and hands hurt keeping me from sleeping, My muscles hurt during the day a lot but I still get up and move around. I try getting as much done as I can. I don’t want to sit and give up and get so stiff I can’t move.
    When I was doing Home health I had a client who had crippling rheumatoid arthritis. Her mom told her when she was diagnosed told her come and live with her because she would help her out. This client of mine kind of gave up. And the arthritis got worse and worse because she didn’t move much and she became quite negative over it. It was sad . Then her mother ended up getting illnesses and passing away. Sometimes people find it easier to be negative than positive. I try to be positive but, sometimes I’m not but I try. Thanks for sharing Tessie.

  56. This video really spoke to me. It made me think hard about a friend situation in my life. Thank God we were able to resolve the issue. Thank you for sharing this!

  57. I choose to make my life the best I can even though things may happen! Life is 10 percent of what happens to us and 90 percent of how we react to it! We are in charge of our choices!

  58. Tessie! I would say this is the best video to end 2019. I hope to always be woman #2. There have been at least two women in my life that are angry and bitter like the first woman you talked about. One I am no longer friends with because she was verbally abusive to all those around her. The second sadly is my mother in law. Thank you for such a perfectly positive video. Happy New Year and May God Bless.

  59. The first lady sounds like my mother. I am the only one who tries to help her. I am a 3x stroke survivor and a 2xwidow. And am fighting to not be like my mother. I am so lonely.

  60. Good morning Tessie. I don't think a bushel basket could stay on you for long. Your light would be shining regardless! There seem to be more unhappy folks than happy these days. I want to live to good purpose and find happiness in the simple life. God is in the details…one has to LOOK for things to be grateful about daily. I want to take responsibility for myself and my actions or lack of action. I'm truly grateful to God for giving me this gift of life. I didn't make it almost to 70 without suffering accidents & various losses : re: family, finance, health. Gram would say, " Just keep going!" There have been abundant blessings along the way because I remained open to them. We have two choices. I can see which one you chose. You are a blessing to those who share life with you Tessie.

  61. Let us be remembered as being kind, loving, caring, humble people.Jesus is my strength.If we believe in Him and let Him live through us, we will be happy.God bless everyone.xxxx

  62. Tessie you are a true light and you are a blessing. I love just listening to your stories each time I watch you I learn a little bit more.

  63. Wow, Tessie. I lost my son to an accident in September. He was 42 and such a dear man. I feel like you were talking to me directly. You are such a blessing to me. Have a wonderful New Year.

  64. Great talk, Tess! Glad I didn't see/hear this until this morning because today was one of those depressed kind of days when I was being hard on myself and feeling down about everything. Tried giving myself a pep talk but yours was much better than my own. You are truly a blessing to me, Tess. God bless you!

  65. Yes negative energy I was bitter like this to but I haven't had no stroke yet any way but last year I started being more godly to people my husband says I see a change in you I read my bible every day now I love god more and myself more yes u are right we don't need to be bitter don't let the devil have his chance with victory

  66. This video sounds as if you're talking about me LOL and I know you're not sending Tons of love from a Kentucky granny.

Leave a Reply

(*) Required, Your email will not be published