Are You Dating or Married to the Wrong Person (This Is So Powerful)


Next to accept in Jesus Christ as your Lord
and Savior. Who you marry is the most important decision
that you’ll ever make in your life. Let me wait for the rest of y’all to catch
up with their very profound thing it’s very important a very important point it’s more
important than the job you take, the college you go to, more important than the house you
buy who you marry because they have the potential of making your life joyful or a nightmare. But I discoveres that and I’m talking about
this today because I’m coming into contact with more people that are getting married
to the wrong people for the wrong reasons and I feel compelled to talk about how you
discern who you are supposed to get married now. Don’t don’t marry somebody because of the
cars that they drive oh yeah y’all need to understand some people get attracted to somebody
because of the car they drive that car ain’t gonna last forever. Next see don’t don’t don’t marry somebody
because of the curves she has. Somebody say curves I mean she’s looking good
now but she ain’t gonna be like that all the time its gonna get like this ina minute. Come on somebody say just like that. But you got attracted to the curves but it
aint gon be like that all the time she’s gonna lose that. You don’t marry somebody because of their
countenance or their cuteness or how handsome they are you don’t go by what the mug look
like y’all put too much focus on external factors. You got to learn to look beyond what the person’s
external features are and learn to value and love people for who they are on the inside
and not what they look like on the outside. You don’t marry somebody because of how much
cash they have, some of y’all are attracted to people because they got money you don’t
love the person then you’re you’re pursuing stuff. What do you determine what do you what do
you look for you look for compatibility are we compatible do we have common interests,
do we have things that we like to do together, do we have things that we both enjoy, that
we both have interest in compatibility and I’m not talking about see see most a lot of
couples have an interest in sexual compatibility you’re not supposed to be having sex before
you get married in the first place. Sex before marriage is wrong. It’s a sin I’m telling you the truth and sex
after marriage is wrong if it’s not with the person your married to. The sints got real quiet for that one right
there but I’m not talking about sexual compatibility. I’m talking about life compatibility. You marry the person who determine your life-partner
compatibility also determine who your life partner ought to be on character. Do they have character
can I talk about that for couple minutes I’m going to finish because here’s what I discovered
I’m 58 I’ve been preaching for 43 years, pastoring 27 this church another church for
three my life is people, that’s what I do every day I live people, counsel people, talk
with people, help people and what I discovered and by is by in large people don’t change. Minus an encounter with the Spirit of God. Minus the Holy Spirit that person gonna be
the same after they get married they the same as they were before they got married. I know you think you can change them, if they
nasty before they got married they’re gonna be nasty after they get married ,if they tell
lies before you get married they’re gonna tell lies after you get married they treat
you me before you get married they will treat you mean after they treat their parents mean
they go they will do the same thing after they don’t respect authority before they’re
not gonna respect authority after people primarily have the same character. Sex before marriage will blind you to a person’s
true character. You didn’t see you didn’t see that they had
a drunken problem you didn’t see that they use drugs because you were so you were blinded
by your immorality you got blinded by it. Then you get married say I didn’t know that
there was this but they had it it was there but sex blinds you to the truths. Competence right competence down that’s an
important thing can I talk about that for a minute competence is the ability to practice
some skills and let me tell you something marriage is skill based, you need skills to
be married you need to ask yourself a question does this person have the confidence do they
have the skills to work and do they have the ability to work on being married. Unfortunately we have a lot of people that
don’t have the competence to be married. Let me give you the next one Communications
I’m almost finished I got I’m halfway through the lists can y’all communicate or do she
listen do she run her mouth all the time. Do she give you a chance to say anything. Does he talk does he communicate does he tell
you when he’s hurting does he speak out loud about was bothering him does he communicate
because a big part of marriage is communication. Here’s the next see children. How many children does he really have and
how many baby daddy do she have and how many children do you want to have. Abig problem with marriages as some people
one person comes to the merge expecting a certain number of kids and the other one had
a different number of kids that can be a big issue with families. Let me talk about the next thing cash management. Can they manage cash. We have the people we have the couples in
our church before they get married we had them do a credit report because the credit
reports gonna tell the story it’s going to tell you whether they got a lot of debt is
going to because when you get married to somebody you are joining to their debt you’re bringing
their assets and their debt their liabilities into y’all become one so if they got a lot
of debt you gonna have a lot of debt when you get married. You’re joining it’s a joining of assets and
the credit report is gonna show whether they pay their bills on time, how much money they
owe, who they walked away it’s gonna tell you a lot about a person and if they don’t
want you to do a credit report that’s telling you something too. Here’s my next one continence I need to
explain it to 12 o’clock route what that is continence means self-control. Can you sexually control yourself cuz I know
when you single and you you’re not married you won’t get married you think when you get
married its just gonna be sex all the time. People enter people enter into marriage thinking
that we will have sex all the time and people enter it I mean I got married when I came
home from work when I got out the car I was running. I thought I could be honest and transparent
with y’all but the truth of the matter is there are seasons in a marriage when sex is
off limits. It ain’t gonna be wild and crazy sex all
the time, as a matter of fact young men the greatest thing you can give to your fiancee
is to demonstrate that you have self-control. So you need to know that you contain yourself,
control yourself. When you get married you need to know what
the salvation status is of the person your. Not just a salvation standards what is their
spiritual status a matter of fact this is something you ought to be have a standard
established even before you start courting the person before you go on the first date
you need to find out where is you with Jesus. Yeah a whole lot of y’all are dating people
courting people spending time with people who are not saved don’t go to nobodies Church
don’t have no spiritual interests and you’re totally disregarding the instructions of God
as a matter of fact just because they go to church don’t mean they saved. I’m amazed at the number of people I talked
to who are about to get married or contemplating marriage and I say where is your is your potential
saved and they tell me they don’t know. I want to know what do y’all talk about how
could you not know when you spending all this time and all this energy how could you not
know the spiritual status of that person here’s the deal if a person has a walk with God somehow
some way is going to come out its gonna be manifested. Either they’ll talk about something God told
them, something God did for them, some scripture that they read some message that they heard
some prayer that God answered ought to be some sign if you are believing they’re ought
to be some sign somewhere in some capacity somewhere somehow sometimes God ought to do
something for you and you ought to be talking about. And number two you need your parents blessings
and so somebody said what if I don’t have my parents blessing well that that’s a sign
that there might be something wrong here that might be a sign to wait or it may be sign
that it’s not the right person person and I’m telling the children today the only young
adults you get married you want you don’t want your parents just their consent you want
their full blessings you want their amen you want God to give you an amen on it somebody
said what if you can’t get it. Well if you feel so strongly that God has
told you that this is the person but your parents doesn’t give you have not and didn’t
give you the blessing the two of you need to go and sit down with your parents and find
out what the issue is and see if you can resolve what the issue is. Here’s here’s a third and important thing
it is here from God you need to hear from God’s voice you need to you need to ask God
however God communicates with you ask him to communicate to you clearly this very important
decision it is the most important decision in life other than accepting Jesus. Ask him to talk to you however whatever it
takes whatever he needs to do ask him to give you clarity because first Samuel 15 jot this
down verse 22 right in the middle of it says to obey is better than sacrifice. God don’t want you to sacrifice when it comes
he wants you to be obedient to him obey who it is what it is he tells you to do. Now I wanted a word from God before I got
married I wanted a word from God man I needed a word from God I needed God to tell me clearly
who I was supposed to be married to because you know I wanted to be married to the right
person cuz you know I had hundreds of women chasing after me and I believe wherever you
are in your walk with God whatever you need God to do to give you clarity he will do what
it takes to help you understand what it is that you need to do and who you need to be
married to because that is a very important message and a very important decision in your
life he’ll communicate it to you and you need them work you need a word from God look at
your neighbor say you need a word from God look on the other side of you on the other
side say you need a word from God. I’m sorry I didn’t have a nice make you shout
message today but if you take this and apply it to your life and get married to the right
person it will make you make your shout. Praying right now interceeding for somebody
today on the brink of a decision that could alter their life. I pray now father that you would help your
sons and daughters to make wise choices and wise decisions. I’m praying God for people who made bad decisions
that you’d give them another chance give us a heart to repent father I pray plead with
you that there are troubled marriages in this that are listening to this message right even
now but God I pray that you would be the God that would step in and bring healing and deliverance
to troubled marriages we could model to the world the love that you Lord have for your
church in Jesus name. Amen

100 comments

  1. WHOM YOU MARRY LASTS
    FOREVER IN ONE FORM OR ANOTHER, TOGETHER OR NOT

    So oooTRUE

    POSITIVE =GOOD
    NEGATIVE = BAD

  2. I married at 19 because God answered my prayer in everything I asked 😁 10 years in November and I swear this is it rains on your wedding day I believe it's a blessing over that marriage lol .we only had his parents there no dress nothing but I know it was right same day a flood of blessings came our way that only God could do

  3. I married a friend and he was ugly but we were friends. So I said yes. He almost murdered me beat me every other day and continuously raped me. So you don't know. know matter what. you just don't know. Not true.

  4. I am attracted to the girl who loves to study scriptures and loves God and loves karaoke and anime and camping

  5. I married someone our first date was at church but it was a relationship strictly business we went almost a year without having sex in our marriage. I had the relationship wanting to bring them to God now I have relationship that acknowledges God but it’s more of friendship partnerships. Now we are working on creating a relationship outside of business and worship but to me it feels forced I just don’t know anymore. I may have to walk this walk alone

  6. This is a message to my wife one day I'll find you I'll honour and cherish you in jesus name then I'll have joy piece and love from GOD one sweet day NEVER GIVE UP there's somebody out there for me please lord send her to me in jesus name amen

  7. This is amazing. Much needed advice. I'm nowhere near marriage, but I will remember this if God opens that door. God bless.

  8. yep first wife cheated, then I slept around, second wife and I are going through a divorce, her kids are trash, dependent, worthless and she is a bitter, vindictive vile woman. am I perfect? no, but I deserve better. after this I am done, dogs and my three wonderful daughters are all I need. Should have prayed more than chase women to be happy. I am an idiot, forgive me Lord please.

  9. I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later…

  10. Thank you for your input. It's APPRECIATED. However, I am single and never ever plan on getting married. I have seen what's available, and what friends have gone through and are going through. Women of today, feel entitled, feel superior, have attitudes, are rude and in general all about themselves. Oh I am sure there are exceptions but who wants to go through all the crap to find one and then never be certain as they change rapidly after marriage. Exceptions sure, gamble NOPE

  11. The Bible is clear…every king or influential man of Greatness in the Bible married a finatually poor woman….they all were poor and all they had was heart…ruth, ester, rebecca, Sarah, ect….the men of God have it all wrong…looking for the money, looking for her job title, looking at her figure…looking at her family connections…smh..rather then looking at her heart for God…FACT

  12. Yes u should listen to ur parents..IF THEY ARE GODLY AND HAVE DISCERNMENT…!!!! IF not then ask God alone for confirmation!!!! some dont have parents and some don't have Godly parents

  13. I’m having marital problems. I’m a sinner although this is the first time in my life I believe I’ve found Jesus. I don’t believe my wife want to be here with me anymore and kinda don’t blame her. I was never the best husband. Now I’m trying to to make things right and I believe it’s too late for our marriage. I’m also starting to think I may be married to the wrong person. Studying the word and trying to get her to follow but she’s rejecting and doing what she wants. Im praying for the Holy Spirit to touch both our hearts although I don’t believe she is accepting it. This video is amazing and this preacher is great. I hope GOD continues to bless him with the knowledge and word so he can continue to touch peoples lives.

  14. I married a man who leaves me every weekend to drink and do drugs with his friends. I made a mistake and i feel alone all the time.

  15. Marriage is not for boys&girls…its for man&woman…s*x or no s*x all 're equal.. seek ye the kingdom of God and his righteousness and everything shall be added unto thee…it says everythings…

  16. build up ur relationship before u enter into marriage…tolerate one another… be honest… allow God to go first…for marriage is not easy at all…ur preaching is awesome..

  17. God says honour your parents, he didn't state that we must honour them only when they are saved. That said parental consent is very important. An African proverb says what a child can see standing on a tree an elder can see sitting down

  18. Its true to ask God for discernment and his blessing in your relationship for marriage. I was in a 4.5 year relationship and 2.5 years in, we were talking about marriage but, something didn't sit right with me. I prayed to God to tell me if this is his will, let it be done but if not…please tell me because I am scared of making the wrong choice, scared of being alone.. I heard him say to my soul "Brittany, this is not what I have planned for you, you need to walk away. I WILL ALWAYS be with you." I Asked him this when I was 2.5 years in the relationship and even though I heard him, I thought I knew better. 

    I wasted 2 MORE YEARS with the wrong person. It was awful, it was a waste of of time and all we did was fight, I felt really alone and we never got engaged. I then went to God again after being together for 4.5 years and asked him the SAME question. And I heard him "Brittany, I told you before, this is not what I have planned for you. Is your will more important than mine? you are going to be okay, I have something better planned for you. I WILL NEVER leave you, or abandon you. I am your God."

    so…this time, I was obedient. I listened. I left my boyfriend a month ago and I have TREMENDOUS peace, because I know it is the will of God. More peace has been put on me in this last month, then I had in the last 2 years of my relationship with my ex. I know GODS plan is far better then anything I could plan myself and I cant wait to see whom he has for me in his blessing.

  19. I think it will be better if you don't marry her instead u just be in a relationship forever because woman get bored easily in marriages

  20. Yes make sure you marry someone that loves the Lord. Someone that loves the Lord has a conscience people that don't love the Lord they can do anything to other people and their conscience never get in their way because they don't have one. Make sure you get to know whoever you marry very well and also. If they can hurt other peoplethey can also hurt you that does not protect you cuz you're married to him. When he reads the Bible make sure it's fair for the spiritual part of it not for the history of it. No one is perfect by no means but there are some important things in a relationship a marriage respect boundaries most of all for the person to have a conscience. A conscience is very important for someone to have the person can get mad at you through a divorce whatever but also they can snap back and realize that they are mad and they anger will go away but when somebody really hate you it never stops. And just think you could give your heart to someone like this and not even realize that you gave your heart away 💔😭

  21. Thats one thing ive held my standards for an equally yoked marriage. One day, but for now the relationship with my father is more important. Let his will be done through me for his Glory. ❤❤❤ how he only wants the utmost best for his children. God bless you all

  22. I'm 20yrs old , May the Lord cleanse and purify my mind, soul and spirit, I received Jesus as my personal Savior in 2016 ,but there's this one thing I've never gotten right, why when I go back to the university after long holidays, I try to distance myself from the Christian union, yet there's that strong urge to work for the Lord.Please help me pray over this. Lion of Judah thank you for the motivational and inspirational message, I'm blessed

  23. Woooaaahh it's to late to see this before I get married but it's OK, mistake teach us maybe next time when I get another one I will apply what I learned from here,

  24. Thank you for such strong message . Can you please prey for me l need God intervention in my life going through broken relationship and l need this to stop happening to me please prey for me my name is Stephanie brown . Thank you God bless you.

  25. Fellowship…. Character with a Soul…. Exclusive Lover…. I am desperately still looking…. Chaste for five years now and looking for the appointed Soulmate. After miserable 25 yrs stolen by Gomer like drama queen. Don’t wish that on my worst enemy…..

  26. Dear future husband, am right here waiting and praying for you. I know you're blessing to me from God. Right now am preparing myself to be your good wife. I love you.

  27. This is so true … Married for 18 years now divorced. Had I of known all this then I would have never ever married that person. But we live and learn and life goes on.

  28. I'm not married and I'm single. I believe in God's perfect timing. Someday He will give a man for me. A man that knows God. ☺

  29. Weather I ever learn how God feels about me I'm sure enough to know that he loves me enough to tell me that I to am his historically that to won't be took in from me that problem is not and well not be for everyone else to have whether anyone wants to share or make a example out of anything else not that it's worth the count but that to adds up in sense.

  30. People change no mater how bad they are let us not gudge others love is hard to come by but first you must love your self in order to love others forgive your self befor you forgive others we are humane no wone is perfect my name is juan antonio ortegon thank u

  31. About an hour ago, I prayed and asked God to please let me know if I was in a relationship with the right person. I needed an answer because I plan on marrying this person. I had a hard time praying because I was scared the answer would be no. Then I opened up my YouTube account and this video popped up, I had the feeling I should watch it but I ignored that feeling. I watched some other videos and closed the app. Then I opened it up again, and the video was still there. I clicked it and God confirmed that I’m with the right person. Thank you so much Lord, I’m beyond happy!

  32. Look forward on Jesus proposal saying "will you be with me forever in the enternal life?"
    Well: One like means "yes".
    Comment: means "i do"
    But you dont have to do those things, im sure you won't say no.

  33. I hope soon I be married to the man I loved. Ohhh my Konstantin sarbunov God blessed us together ..🙏🏾🙏🏾 philippines 🇵🇭 and russia 🇷🇺 😘

  34. I shoud send this video to my ex who married the wrong men to hurt me but she is the one getting hurt for the past 15 years, shes very unhappy wanting to be with me again but, nope! Never!

  35. God brought me to this video because He felt the need to warn me. It’s not enough that you love the person, you need to be firm with the standard of God.

  36. Dear future Husband, I am working so hard on myself and life for us. My mentality,my spirituality,my physicality,and all around life. I can't wait to meet you. My daughter doesn't know it yet but Mommy will not always be alone. On days when I feel like giving up she is my lifeline and the thoughts of one day having a whole family keep me going. Until we meet darling..xoxo Megan

  37. Wat hadden we het leuk samen alles hadden we. Behalve de kids en die zouden nog terug komen allemaal. Jij die mij lijd en voor mij denkt en ik die het gevecht aan ga en het doe. Samen waren wij de sterksten. It jonkje en it faamke. Famke Auke wil grag eerst 2 a erbij. haha

  38. Im crying… I lost the one, he is also Christian and it felt like he was the one… but he died😞 he is now with God in heaven😭but i really loved him and i still do… i miss him, but it is what it is…im happy he is safe now…..✝️❣️

  39. Ok. I wont ever get married. My parent wont ever give me their blessing. Ever. Unless i marry with a rich man. AND THAT ITS IMPOSIBLE

  40. Thanks pastor but i dont wanna get married im too darn selfish plus marriage is hard work…i heard from pastor b and manual o…so. Ill stay single its better and im just not ready im so used to being single i see myself single ……

  41. 25 virgin here. I'm glad I've saved myself, but sometimes waiting gets tiring because most men nowadays just want to hookup and casual relationships. But I will not lose hope. I'm going to step out of my comfort zone and put myself out there and pray I find a good faithful man.

  42. This is awesome and wise massage sir am blessed for am still single 27yeas still waiting for the right man as I am keeping myself i want to find myself the real God fearing person 🙏

  43. Amen praise God… Me and my husband just got married 💍 and it's been 4 months and I didn't know I he drinks and smokes🚬. But I kept on praying and now we go to church and he doesn't drink or smoke anymore… Praise God 🙌🙏

  44. I had no idea having sex as a teenager could affect the rest of my life. Until the day I gave my life to Jesus Christ of Nazareth, as the LORD and saviour. From then I understood the scripture in the book of : HEBREWS 13v4 Marriage should be honorable among all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. I should add that God wants us to reserve sex for marriage not because its "bad or dirty," but precisely because its such a unique, exclusive, and wonderful thing. Sex is a holy mystery. Have you not read the scripture says, That He who made them at the beginning made them male and female, and for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be join to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting our Children. The study in the field of neuroscience explain the impact of sex on the developing brains of adolescents and young age. Scientific data has revealed the following :- Sexual activity releases chemicals in the brain, creating emotional bonds between partners. – Breaking these bonds can cause depression and make it harder to bond with someone else in the future. – Chemicals released in the brain during sex can become addictive. – The human brain is not fully developed until a person reaches their mid-20s. – Until then it is harder to make wise relationship decisions. Parents and others who care about young people now have the facts to steer them away from making life changing mistakes, and lead them toward reaching their full potential. This will help parents and singles understand that "Safe Sex" isn't safe at all, that even if they are protected against STDs and pregnancy, they are still hurting themselves and their partners. With state of the art mapping and imaging tools, researchers have unlocked a new world of data on what happens between your ears each day. In addition, new methods of tracking brain chemicals have allowed Scientists to understand when and how much of these chemicals
    are released and how they influence behavior. What we now know from science is what some Preachers of the gospel have been preaching for years about the effects of Premarital sex. This fits in perfectly with the apostle Paul's warning in the book of Corinthians " Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? Our children are more sexually active these doesn't affect them only, but everyone to the elders.This teachings on sexuality and social behavior, is to help our youth and the singles to raise a standard to become who God created us to be. To that end, it teaches and encourages a lifestyle of abstinence until marriage and fidelity within Marriage.I had no idea having sex as a teenager could affect the rest of my life. Until the day I gave my life to Jesus Christ of Nazareth, as the LORD and saviour. From then I understood the scripture in the book of : HEBREWS 13v4 Marriage should be honorable among all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. I should add that God wants us to reserve sex for marriage not because its "bad or dirty," but precisely because its such a unique, exclusive, and wonderful thing. Sex is a holy mystery. Have you not read the scripture says, That He who made them at the beginning made them male and female, and for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be join to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting our Children. The study in the field of neuroscience explain the impact of sex on the developing brains of adolescents and young age. Scientific data has revealed the following :- Sexual activity releases chemicals in the brain, creating emotional bonds between partners. – Breaking these bonds can cause depression and make it harder to bond with someone else in the future. – Chemicals released in the brain during sex can become addictive. – The human brain is not fully developed until a person reaches their mid-20s. – Until then it is harder to make wise relationship decisions. Parents and others who care about young people now have the facts to steer them away from making life changing mistakes, and lead them toward reaching their full potential. This will help parents and singles understand that "Safe Sex" isn't safe at all, that even if they are protected against STDs and pregnancy, they are still hurting themselves and their partners. With state of the art mapping and imaging tools, researchers have unlocked a new world of data on what happens between your ears each day. In addition, new methods of tracking brain chemicals have allowed Scientists to understand when and how much of these chemicals
    are released and how they influence behavior. What we now know from science is what some Preachers of the gospel have been preaching for years about the effects of Premarital sex. This fits in perfectly with the apostle Paul's warning in the book of Corinthians " Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? Our children are more sexually active these doesn't affect them only, but everyone to the elders.This teachings on sexuality and social behavior, is to help our youth and the singles to raise a standard to become who God created us to be. To that end, it teaches and encourages a lifestyle of abstinence until marriage and fidelity within Marriage.

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